Planning a Funeral During a Pandemic
The loss of a loved one is a difficult and at times overwhelming experience. When coupled with navigating the complexities of COVID-19, the grief journey is even more complicated. It is only natural to be concerned about safety while wanting to honor that special person.
It is still possible to hold a dignified funeral at a cemetery for your loved one during this time. Choosing a funeral home that has compassionate and professional staff will be the first step. Although you may be concerned about your safety and the safety of those who will attend, there are many ways to minimize the risk of spreading COVID-19 during a funeral at a cemetery. The funeral director at your chosen funeral home will be able to guide you through this, but it is also helpful to know what to expect.
The World Health Organization (WHO) and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) are good sources for guidance on conducting funerals during this pandemic. Here are some important things to keep in mind:
Minimize the Number of Attendees
Although we would normally like as many close friends and relatives as possible to pay their last respects, it is best to keep funeral attendance to people closest to the deceased. Having fewer people at a funeral or memorial service makes it easier to practice social distancing, which is an effective way to minimize the spread of COVID-19. Keep in mind that some people could be asymptomatic, so there is no way to be absolutely certain that all attendees are free from the virus. Fewer guests will lower the risk.
Try to Keep it Outdoors
Wherever possible, have people gather outdoors. If this is not at all possible (like on a heavily rainy day), try to have the service in a well-ventilated area, keeping doors and windows open where you can. Outdoor gatherings are safer than indoor gatherings because they lower the possibility of circulated air and therefore reduce the risk of spreading the virus.
Avoid Sharing
It is not uncommon to share bibles, pamphlets and other tokens during funerals. These practices should be avoided for now. Each individual should have their own reading materials, and items like collection bowls should be placed on a table rather than passed around. This way individuals can place their offerings in the bowl while still practicing social distancing.
Ensure Good Hygiene
Your chosen funeral home should be able to ensure that there are enough facilities for hand washing and sanitizing, and that frequently touched surfaces are being regularly disinfected. Everyone in attendance should wear a mask at all times, and as difficult as it is, hugs should also be avoided.
Final thoughts
Ultimately, no matter how small the gathering, having a group of people come together during this time will involve some risk. If it is at all possible, consider a virtual service or gathering. Technology allows us to connect with people all over the world. The burial can be limited to a small group of family members, while other friends and family join in virtually from their homes.
While these times are difficult, you can still celebrate the life of your loved one.